Why Russian men do not want to marry?
Posted January 24, 2012on:
cynical men look at most women’s issue Why do men? What else? The vast majority of books and articles with useless tips on how to get married, says women long lonely evenings. But if you want to talk with men in one language, one must know the course of men’s thoughts, to understand the man’s logic. Or try to force men to think their own way, like a woman. It may even succeed, but they will cease to be men …
Relationships, like, are better than ever. Attention, flirting, sex, common interests … REGISTRY? I’m not ready! And why? Why!
Indeed, why should a man marry? What could induce him to it?
Sex? Sex – normal requirement of a healthy body. The peak of the sexual needs of men begins at an average age of 14 (!) And holds up to 20 years that way. Wish the sea, no experience, and therefore no opportunities. I want to, want, want … And more than once a week, after the removal to dance, and every day, many times a day … Maybe get married? Marry. Marry!!!
Peak sexual needs of women accounted for 45, and before that she was slowly rocking. Proclivities of the younger girl to touch her breast or spy color panties through the stairwell sexual exploits seem to be boys, and girls – vulgarity.
Many of the “boys” get married at a young age just for the “post office” sex. However, they are sincerely convinced that it is – love. But after the 25-30 male acquires the ability to think and top, and not just the bottom, “head”, and among his contemporaries there are many women willing to have sex for fun. Concern runs. And with it, “love”.
In the present circumstances free morality to satisfy their sexual needs – no problem. For a song with a guitar or “greenbacks”. Sex – a great way to attract a man, but no way to keep him. And even more so no reason to provoke him to exchange a lot of women in one single, no matter how well he was not in bed. Kama Sutra is not saved and does not help. Marriages are built on speculation male concern disintegrate shortly after the man turns 25-30 years old. And they are older they are generally not feasible.
common goals and interests? The similarity of views and interests – a good prerequisite for understanding. But this is not a reason to marry. You can revel in many hours talking about the meaning of life, together to listen to your favorite music, watch the same movies and TV shows, but why for the sake of starting a family? It is interesting to spend time possible and with a friend, and with a friend, and his mistress.
Some couples share a common work, common business. Hooked on a matter of people sit up late at the office, coming home to call back and rewritten by e-mail again to the working theme, finally, it happens that they are not able to catch the subway or to bridges and “accidentally” find themselves together till the morning … It would seem to put them to “blot” on marriage – a mere formality, and they both together for 25 hours a day. But nothing of the sort! Man understands that working with his wife in the same office – no sugar. To some of them will have to change jobs. And between marriage and joint work, he usually chooses to work.
Life? A man must eat, walk in clean clothes and live in a relatively retracted house. It would seem, a woman who is able and willing to maintain his life, has all chances to go with him to the registrar. But this is not true. At least, for most men. Remember the tale of Tsar Saltan. “If one of you is a weaver, and another – a cook!”
Man having at least the average salary and had no family (and others you’re not interested, do not you?), Can afford to eat at a restaurant, if not, then in a cafe or bistro. Besides, now you can buy a clock quite edible semi-finished and ready meals, which is enough to throw in the microwave. There are automatic washing machines, dishwashers, washing vacuum cleaners. And socks easier to buy than to do laundry. In addition, many men and not themselves away pokoldovat the kitchen and ask her their house in order.
In addition, the most men have a mother who’ll do no worse than his wife, but will not be scandals because that his head rotates 360 degrees at the sight of beauty in a short skirt.
course, a man capable of sincere thanks for the tasty food or clean in his bachelor apartment. But weighing all the pros and cons, he usually comes to the conclusion that the guaranteed bowl of soup – too expensive fee for freedom.
Social status? If a woman gets married They say that she was “shapat peasant. She – the winner. Married Man – olive, allowed himself “to eat”. To be married – prestige, to be married – to put it mildly, not very. Single men – a free man, an unmarried woman – Unclaimed or abandoned. The ads are often asked about dating married men (“not free”!) Do not bother; men as such “trifle” usually do not bother, rather the contrary. Of course, the possession of the beauty of the model can raise the status of men, as well as possession of a prestigious car. But models are not at all impossible to satiate, but what about just a pretty woman? Hence the sad statistic – in Russia for one man, ready to get married, five women seeking to marry.
In America, for example, the situation is the opposite – not “one to five,” and “five to one.” There, women are not looking for husbands-sponsors, they declare their independence. First, they want to get an education, to organize a business, own a stable income, and only then, perhaps, and get married. Because to be married there is prestigious, and men aspire to marriage. It’s just that to enter a university with the competition in five people in the place! Married man feel successful and stable, he was more willing to give credit to him making deals, he trusted the best posts.
But we, alas, not in America.
Kids? Motherhood – one of the main female instincts. Woman seeks to bring forth, bring up and educate the child and find a man who would be assisted her in this. This is perhaps the strongest motive for marriage. A man is the biological nature dictates a different tactic – to disperse their seeds at the maximum female space. I am not in any way deny affection to the children of men, sometimes it happens more female instincts, but it appears later, when the child is already possible to “talk for life.” For a woman, trying to keep a man child, usually gets the opposite effect: he was at work, and then start a girlfriend, or begin to drink.
Course, there are men who like true gentlemen marry “under the flight, but, as experience shows such marriages are very unstable, and the children in them nervously and painful. There are men with children, as women who dream to have a child and with this view tend to create a family, but they, to a woman’s great regret, very little.
Love? Only love! We watched series about Kamenska? Remember: “There are women, which is good, but without them even better. There are women, which is bad, but without them even worse.” With women, with whom good men are friends, meet, have sex. And marry those without which they feel bad. From them, they can tolerate a lot of inconveniences for the sake of them willing to sacrifice freedom. I guess this is love, which should not be confused with the flash of love or sexual interest. And this is the strongest, if not the only reason to really encourage men to marry. And if there is no love, it only remains for women to read tips on how to try to marry with the help of manipulations.